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12 Things Women With Great Hair Do Every Day

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If you’re constantly coveting perfect hair, turn away from all those pricey fad treatments that do more to drain your wallet than treat your strands. And instead, pick up some daily habits that will actually make a difference. We asked top stylists to spill their secrets on things women with fantastic hair do daily, and here’s their list — all of which you can do from the comfort of your own home.

1. She avoids heat styling as much as possible.

But let’s be honest, you have to use them sometimes. Michael Dueñas, celebrity hairstylist and founder of Hair Room Service, recommends steam rollers, which are gentle on the hair and do not get overly warm, as they’re heated solely by steam passing through the foam on the roller. But if you absolutely have to use hot tools (blow dryers, curling irons, wands, flat irons, hot rollers) to style your hair, always use a spray-in heat protectant, says Eve Galminche, Arrojo top colorist.

2. She always sleeps on silk.

Silk’s smooth texture won’t rough up your hair cuticle when you sleep the way cotton does, leaving you with smoother hair in return, explains Suave Professionals celebrity stylist Marcus Francis. Fewer frizzy strands in the morning? Now that’s the dream (no pun intended).

3. She keeps her hair clean.

We’re sure you’ve heard a lot about the No-Poo movement (basically not shampooing your hair to preserve your natural oils), but Cristophe Salon Newport Beach owner Scott Fontana urges you to listen to your hair. “As long as women are using quality products, they can benefit from more frequent washing,” he explains. “It reduces split ends, provides great moisture, and gives hair an overall clean and shiny look.”

Not sure how often to lather up? Jeffrey J. Miller, M.D., assistant professor of dermatology at Pennsylvania State University College of Medicine suggests these straightforward rules: Wash daily if you live in a city with pollution or humidity, or work out daily. Wash every few days if you live in a rural environment away from pollutants, or an especially dry climate. And if your hair is normal or combination, with dry ends and oily roots, you should split the difference and wash every other day.

4. She doesn’t skimp on moisturizer.

The skin that makes up your scalp needs moisture just like the skin on your face does, especially if it’s going to provide a healthy foundation for hair to grow, explains Riawna Capri of CLEAR Scalp & Hair. She adds: “A general rule of thumb is to condition every time you shampoo.”

But the moisturizing doesn’t end once you leave the shower. Even if you’re not heat-styling your hair, you should comb through a protective product, says Oribe Hair Care stylist Adam Livermore. It can reduce frizz, dryness, and split ends, and even protect your color!

5. She stays loyal.

It’s a common misconception that switching up your hair care brands keeps your hair healthier because it never gets time to adapt, but experts disagree. Instead, they suggest finding what works for you and sticking with it. Remember: Your hair doesn’t know the difference. And while it’s perfectly fine to change things up when searching for that perfect combination that leaves you with killer strands — once you find it, don’t let it go.

6. She eats the right foods.

For all the attention we pay to the hair follicle once it leaves the scalp, half the battle for beautiful hair is already lost (or won) by what you’re putting in your body every day. According to Dr. Robert Dorin, New York City-board certified diplomat of the American Board of Hair Restoration, what you eat plays a huge role in gloss, growth, and volume.

“A diet rich in iron, zinc, Omega-3 fatty acids, and protein will help stimulate your hair follicles for growth.” Dorin recommends alternating between lean red meat, chicken, and fish during the week for optimum hair health.

7. She takes her vitamins.

Even if your diet is impeccable, it’s possible you’re missing out on some crucial hair-boosting vitamins. Not sure if you need them? Dr. Frank Lipman, founder of Eleven Eleven Wellness Center, says the answer is in how healthy (or not-so-healthy) your skin and nails look. For example, if your fingernails are ridging and/or if you have dry, flaky skin, chances are your hair is crying out for help, too. But that’s easy to reverse: Once you start taking the right combo of vitamins, minerals, amino acids, and herbs, you can get fuller, shinier, and stronger hair in just a few months. Bonus: Your nails and skin will also benefit.

8. She limits her time in the sun.

You see the damage that a day without sun protection does to your skin, but even though your hair suffers just as much, it can be harder to tell. To prevent sun damage, Rik Rak Master Stylist Marcelo suggests applying a leave-in conditioner at least every other day. Careful application from mid-shaft to the ends of hair can combat damage from the summer big three — UV rays, wind, and saltwater.

And if you’re headed to the beach where the heat will be coming at you from all directions, spritz a generous application of heat protectant with SPF onto damp hair before going out, followed by a reapplication after swims — same as you would do for your skin.

9. She steers clear of snarls.

Before you go ripping a comb through your strands, think about what you’re doing — and be gentle. Use a wide-toothed comb for particularly tangled locks, and always brush your hair from bottom to top to avoid creating more knots and snarls.

10. She gets regular trims — even when growing out her hair.

You might be tempted to skip seasonal trims when growing out your hair, but to add healthy length, you actually need to do just the opposite. Meri Kate O’Connor, senior colorist and educator at Eva Scrivo Salon stands firm that a haircut every six to eight weeks is necessary to prevent split ends from forming as the hair cuticle splits.

“When the split goes up the hair shaft, it becomes so thin that it breaks — that’s when people get breakage.” And once your hair splits, there’s no way to repair it, so keep it trimmed to prevent harmful breakage before it starts.

11. She keeps it cool in the shower.

When you’re washing your hair, you don’t want the water too hot, warns David Edery, owner of Attitudes Paris Salon in Houston. Excess heat can blast the volume out of your hair, leaving you with limp locks. Instead, opt for warm water — this temperature allows you to work up a nice lather while still staying hot enough to rinse suds clean. And when it comes to the final post-conditioner rinse, the colder the better. Chilly water locks in those coveted nutrients into each strand, adding a beautiful, healthy luster.

12. She knows the right amount of product to use — and where to use it.

If you cover your entire head when you shampoo or conditioner, you’re doing it wrong! Concentrate the shampoo on the first few inches of hair at the scalp, where you get the most oil and product buildup — your ends don’t need cleansing as much. As for conditioner, work it in from the mid-shaft to the ends where the hair is driest and prone to split ends.

Original article: Beautiful Hair Tips

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6 Great Benefits Of Having Large Breasts

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Nobody can deny this: we are living in a judgmental world, and people are judged by the content and size of what they have. For women, big breasts have become one of the yardsticks their attractiveness is measured. Men desire those women having ample bosoms. Even movies, magazines, celebrities — all these encourage the idea that your breasts play a significant role in enhancing your appearance. Therefore, those not well endowed in the breast department feel not only less feminine but also aesthetically displeasing. This article is going to discuss some of the benefits of having large breasts.

More Self Confidence

Women having larger breasts — whether they are natural or not — normally discover they ooze more self-confidence. The reason might that they know men admire them-since the male eye is stimulated by visual “evidences”, but also they feel more attractive and feminine in their attire. Having larger breasts, without any shadow of a doubt, makes you feel not only more feminine but also sexier. This helps in boosting your self-confidence.

More Career Opportunities

Studies have shown that those women with larger breasts have better prospects of landing almost any work. In a number of instances, the reason behind this is a man is doing the interview or hiring, and he admires the sight of bigger breasts. Also, women having bigger breasts are generally more confident and do not suffer from low self-esteem and this helps them in interview situations. They are also apt to scale the corporate ladder much faster than their flatter sisters.

Make More Money

Besides more career opportunities, they also have more opportunities of making more money. For instance, women working in the service industry soon discover that their breasts can be a valuable asset. They obviously receive more tips simply due to their bigger “assets”. Whether you are a bartender or a waitress, you may expect to receive more cash at the end of each shift when you carry bigger breasts. And when you select to flaunt your “assets” with push-up bras or low-cut outfits, then your earnings from tips are likely going to get higher.

Positive Effects on Social Life

You may be aware of this fact. Yes, it’s absolutely true that there are a number of evolutionary benefits acting as a catalyst for moving forward in social circles. For women, big and firm breasts are surely eye-catching. And in many cultures around the world, production of hormones, which is important for the development of chest in girls is normally taken as a certain evidence of fertility plus healthy reproductive system.

Clothing

How a person dresses might be said to be a matter of personal choice. But nobody can argue that females having larger and firm breasts look much attractive in all kinds of clothing and dresses. And during summer, it may be a lot of fun flaunting your chest in a low-top or a bikini. But when having small breasts, you will not have much to show off.

More Enjoyment in Bed

A recent study on female sexuality revealed that females possessing voluptuous breasts feel more comfortable in a sexual situation. This might be because they’re more confident or because they realize they’re receiving more attention from their male partner.

Conclusion

There are many benefits of having large breasts, that’s why many women decide to go for breast-enhancement surgery to improve the size of their boobs. You are going to be confident about your femininity and sexuality, which comes with several social and psychological benefits.

Original article: 6 Benefits of Large Breasts

5 Romantic Needs of a Woman

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A great lover must be committed to satisfying his wife’s unique needs.

When asked to describe the purpose of romance, a woman will use words such as friendship, relationship, endearment, and tenderness. Given the same question, a man will answer with one of the shortest words in the English language—sex. For him, physical oneness and affirmation of his manhood equal romance.

Can two people with such different perspectives have their expectations met? Absolutely! But creating adventurous romance requires planning and enthusiastic effort. The relationship has to be a top priority. One reason so many marriage beds are frozen over or boring is that couples just don’t have time for romance and sex. Too many husbands and wives try to work sex in between the evening news and late night talk shows.

Let’s face it. Many of our activities and other important things get the best of our resources and energy. Jobs get our best. Children get our best. Church work gets our best. But are we saving any of our best for romance in marriage?

When we had children at home, Barbara and I worked hard to save some of our best for each other. Our children learned over the years that Mom and Dad often like to have quiet evenings alone. When the children were younger, we occasionally turned the kitchen into a famous big-time restaurant called the Rainey Rainbow Room and let each child order a special meal from a special menu. Barbara and I served as chef and waiter, and the kids had a great time learning a little bit about how to eat out.

Later in the evening, they knew they were to go to their rooms and stay there, not coming out for anything except bathroom runs. At 8 p.m., Barbara and I turned our bedroom into our own romantic cafe, complete with a small table, candles, and flowers (when I remembered to pick them up). There we would eat, talk, and relax. As we communicated, we were reminded of what attracted us to each other, and romance had an opportunity to ignite. We didn’t have to worry about a babysitter and didn’t have to leave the house to get away alone.

To make anything like this work, you must schedule it and then take the time to follow through. If I have learned anything in marriage, it is that romance, our relationship, and sex take time. And they deserve our best.

I have spent the better part of my marriage learning and adjusting the following summary of a woman’s romantic needs. The list was developed through much observation and conversation with Barbara and other women. I also have learned a great amount from the best book ever written on romance, passion, and sex—the Song of Songs in the Old Testament. Obviously, a woman has more than five romantic needs, but I consider these to be the top five:

Romantic Need #1: To Be Spiritually Ministered to By Her Man

Are you surprised that something to do with candy and flowers isn’t number one? A woman wants a man eager to be her protector, someone who cares not just about her security and physical needs but also (and even more importantly) about her spirituality, the well-being of her very soul.

A husband can be a spiritual protector and advocate for his wife by praying with and for her daily, putting his arms around her, and saying, “I want to ask God to bless you. I want to take any needs you have in your life right now to the Lord. And I’m going to pray for you throughout this day.” A wise husband takes the lead in sharing Scripture and eagerly initiating conversation on spiritual issues.

A husband can contribute to his wife’s spiritual well-being by giving her some time to pursue her spiritual growth. For example, he might take care of the kids by himself for the evening while she attends a Bible study.

I suggest that every young husband who wants to better understand his wife and his job description should read The Christian Husband, a book by my friend and colleague Bob Lepine.

Romantic Need #2: To Feel Safe and Secure with Her Husband

A woman needs to feel her husband’s covenantal commitment to stay married and to love her and accept her. Then she feels safe to give him the gift of who she is in the marriage relationship. The Shulammite woman, who was the object of Solomon’s passion, said, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine” (Song 6:3). She obviously had a strong sense of contentment and security.

A wife needs to know that romantic intimacy is just between her and her husband, that he will not share any personal details with his friends. She should not feel pressured or fearful, experiencing the love that casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).

Romantic Need #3: To Share Intimate Conversation

According to something I read recently, the typical couple spends only four minutes a day in meaningful conversation with each other. A lot of us husbands don’t realize that for our wives to consider us romantic, we first of all have to be a great friend and a conversationalist.

Grunts and one-word answers to questions just don’t cut it! Too many women don’t feel that their husbands really need them, and bare-bones conversation confirms their sense of low personal value. Many men who were accomplished at romantic, deep conversation during courtship seem to lose this talent later. You can rediscover the groove! Make a commitment to learn to make intimate conversation a priority with your wife. You need to talk and fill her in on the details of your life—not just facts, but feelings.

When a husband sincerely shows his desire for conversation and a deepening relationship—emotional intimacy—he will find that his wife is much more interested in sexual intimacy. Her dreams, hopes, desires, and disappointments then are not divorced from the marriage bed but are a part of it.

Romantic Need #4: To Receive a Tender Touch and Hear Gentle Words

Before marriage, two people in love can hardly keep their hands off each other because they find the touch of their beloved thrilling. What happens after the wedding? Some couples married for a while would find a firm handshake a wildly intimate encounter. This should not be the case in a marriage. There is great power in tender touch, even if it’s just a long, full-body hug or a lingering kiss. Or the touch may be a gentle caress of her face that has no motive to make sexual demands but communicates, “I love you, Sweetheart, and I care for you tenderly.”

Gentle words have similar power. I have made a partial list of some things that I think any husband could use in complimenting and praising his wife: charm; femininity; faithfulness to God, you, your children; hard work; beauty; personality; her love, including her receptivity and responsiveness to you as a man; her advice and counsel; character; desirability; friendship—and that’s just a start. What wife won’t respond to a husband who praises her regularly with gentle words for all these qualities?

Romantic Need #5: To Be Pursued and Set Apart by Her Man

A wife wants a husband who will sweep her off her feet, carry her away to the castle, and say, “Let’s spend time together.” Focused attention is like precious gold in a relationship.

One time Barbara and I had a little unresolved argument over a weekend. A couple of days later we went on our customary weekly date. We finally had the time and environment to fully discuss and resolve our differences. What it took was several hours away from phones, papers and bills, and the needs of our children. Your wife craves this focused attention from you.

A Great Lover

One of my favorite stories is of an interview with one of Hollywood’s biggest male stars, a man known for his prowess with the opposite sex. At one point he was asked, “What makes a great lover?”

“Two things,” he replied. “First of all, it is a man who can satisfy one woman over a lifetime. And it is a man who can be satisfied with one woman for a lifetime.”

That was a great answer! To build a strong marriage where you and your wife are experiencing oneness, you must be committed to satisfying her physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. I hope you both enjoy a lifetime of satisfaction!

Original article: 5 Romantic Needs of a Woman

A Crown Only of Thorns

The delusion that malice, mischief and misbehavior can only go one way…

  • towards one nation but not another…
  • towards one race but not another…
  • towards one gender but not another…
  • towards one people but not another…
  • towards one victim but not another…

is the very foundation stone of totalitarianism.

In 2018, if you actually believe crimes, errors, abuses, or sins only go one direction…

You have been brainwashed.

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Or, in church parlance: you’ve been baptized with mop water.

You have been deceived.

And like everyone else that has been deceived throughout history, you are spending a tremendous amount of time, money, and passion to stay in the wrong square.

Good goes in every direction.

Evil goes in every direction.

Dear Social Justice Warrior, the second you decree one _____________________ (person, gender, race, class, group, social vector, anything) is immune from any class of criminal conduct…

You just created a caste system. You are creating a social exemption, granting privileges to one group but not another.

You are creating the very racism, sexism, or class discrimination you allege you are fighting.

You are your own enemy but don’t realize it because you’re too busy fawning over how pretty your black, featureless flag looks.

Left unchecked, your errors will grow like a cancer until, a hundred years hence, future historians will read about what you believed with the same disdain as Nazi Germany, or Stalin’s Russia, or slavery, or eugenics, etc.

This happens all the time: someone cannot do what they really want (steal, murder, persecute, exaggerate, pretend, role-play, lie) so they change the terms (meanings of words) little by little until they are allowed the abuses they seek.

It is very crafty and very deadly. It is how bad people get what they want at the expense of other people, most often the innocent and the upright.

Decent people, still within their manners, try to accommodate these tiny warps, but in time they realize they’ve been duped.

When cornered by logic, bad people simply dismiss logic as being “racist”. When trapped in math, bad people dismiss math (or any science opposing them) to being “masculine” or “patriarchal”. They will just keep cheating until they win.

That’s what they do. That’s who they are. They tear apart any structure restraining their lusts until they can do whatever they want without being judged.

Remember: the sinner wants to sin, they just don’t want the shame that goes along with it. So, they change the rules of the game.

Does this work? Of course not. They just keep creating hotter hells on Earth, one after the other, always blaming some phantom resistance, those “others” just around the corner, just out of view, as to why their glorious utopia isn’t working.

So why isn’t their utopia working?

Because they are imperfect people — deceived and wantonly-if-not-militantly imperfect — thus they invariably create dystopia. And, as expected, their over-the-top egos prevent them from realizing their warped worldview is, in fact, incapable of producing utopia.

Newsflash! We’re all imperfect. We all fall short. We all make mistakes, believe wrong things, and listen to people we shouldn’t.

Check this out: the Greek word for sin is ἁμαρτάνω (pronounced hä-mär-tä’-nō) and means:

  1. to be without a share in
  2. to miss the mark
  3. to err, be mistaken
  4. to miss or wander from the path of uprightness and honour, to do or go wrong
  5. to wander from the law of God, violate God’s law, sin

When you swing at a baseball and miss, or when you throw a dart at a dartboard and miss the center or whatever section you were aiming for, when you shoot an arrow in archery and miss the bullseye…

You’ve sinned.

Put simply: you missed.

So what’s the difference between the believer and the unbeliever?

Belief and change.

The believer recognizes, one by one, his or her imperfections and brings them to the Lord for evaluation. If they line up, if they are Life, they keep it. If they don’t, if they are Death, they nail them to the cross: expurgation.

Believers — real believers — are constantly conforming to the highest standard across all sectors. They (we, I) fumble, drop the ball, backslide, wallow in pity and hypocrisy at times, make colossal blunders… but we recognize all these as errors (sins) simply because we have a perfect living standard outside ourselves that we can compare to.

The unbeliever only has himself.

Both the believer and unbeliever suffer from sin-stroke — the scares, dings, dents, and cuts of really bad decisions and outcomes; but the believer has an entire catalog of remedies far beyond and above the quick-fix schemes of Man.

Unbelievers are the opposite: they conform themselves only to those standards in those sectors they already happen to agree with it, and dismiss the rest of nonsense. They do this out of familiarity and the fear of the opposite, unfamiliarity. They do not throw out their errors, but enshrine them, hoping to sprinkle enough glitter on them so that in years to come, their failures are completely buried in a heap of sparkles. This is pretending at sanctification, and it achieves nothing except loitering in errors and false presuppositions.

This is a form of prison. What you need is a jailbreak.

The devil was kicked out of heaven. He no longer possesses the knowledge of heaven, how it works, or how to recreate it. All he creates is darkness. All his children create is darkness. No matter how pretty and shiny it starts off looking, it always turns to darkness.

Deprived. Depraved. Dark.

That’s them and all their ambitions in three words.

Their weapons are rage, alienation and violence.

Our weapons are faith, prayer, reason, science, hope, health, justice, mercy and grace.

So, what’s the conclusion?

Don’t water thorns.

And certainly don’t make crowns of them.