“Romance is for the unmarried.”
“Chivalry is dead.”
“Real men aren’t romantic.”
I’ve heard these sentiments uttered by people throughout my life. And what a load of crap.
The truth? All men have the ability to be romantic.
Granted, many guys are afraid to do romantic things because they think it will be lame. Or they will get laughed at. Or it won’t go over as well as they had hoped. And so they don’t even try.
Which is a shame.
She loves when you do romantic things for her. Because they are for her. Even if the gesture is silly, she likes it because it means that you like her so much that you’re putting in effort to continually woo her.
The 21st Century Gentleman: Romantic Mindset For The Modern Man
When most guys do work up the courage to do something romantic, it’s often dripping with expectation.
And if you’re using romance as a pre-cursor for wanting something in return, she will feel it.
The proper mindset of a romantic is one of wanting her to know that you think about her and care about her. You employ your gestures as pure acts of love to show your partner that she means the world to you.
Try to come up with your own romantic ideas. They can be creative, observant, playful, simple or childlike, as long as they are thoughtful. As a rule of thumb, if you can picture her melting in front of your eyes with how loved the gesture will make her feel (often followed by a barrage of face kisses) that usually means you are on to something.
How To Give Her The Romance She Wants: The Five Essential Elements Of A Powerful Romantic Gesture
All romantic gestures are not created equal.
Here are some guidelines to be able to come up with your own powerful romantic gestures.
Surprise is absolutely essential in your romantic gesture.
If you come across as boring and predictable in everything that you do, then you are not being romantic.
But if you keep your partner on her toes by surprising her with your gestures, then your relationship flourishes.
It truly is the thought that counts.
If your gestures takes time, energy, and effort then you’re probably on to something good.
Your romantic gesture needs to be calibrated to your partner.
In many cases, if it seems like you just recreated a sweet thing that your buddy told you about but it doesn’t really match up to what your partner likes, then it could fall flat.
Take the time to think about what makes her feel loved and appreciated.
Don’t ask yourself “What could I do that would seem romantic?” Instead, ask yourself, “What could I do to make (Insert your partner’s name) feel the most loved and appreciated?”
While romantic gestures can certainly have a positive effect on Valentine’s Day or her birthday, if your gesture is self-initiated (meaning it happened because you decided to make it happen and not because the calendar told you you should be romantic) then it is that much more powerful.
Sending her flowers just because. Doing the dishes because you know it will make her life easier. Mailing her a random “thank you for being my partner” card (even if you live together).
Taking the initiative in your love life will always be appreciated, so do it.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the details of having to plan out a five part date with chauffeurs, dinner reservations, and candle-lit champagne-fueled sunsets… so keep it simple! Shave off as many layers of complexity as possible for your romantic gesture.
You don’t need to spend a lot of money (or necessarily time) for your romantic gesture to speak volumes about how you feel about her.
As long as it makes her feel loved, it will be a success.
Original article: Top 10 Romantic Tips